Dear 90’s Baby #12
Dear 90’s Baby,
Are you happy?
In the past few months, suicide cases in my country went up. Some people who looked perfectly normal and comfortable on the outside just decided to end their lives. We heard cases of people jumping into rivers, and hanging themselves. Popular reasons included: depression, debt, poverty and frustration. These are deep things and I do not make light of them. I also don’t think we can talk about depression casually. Doctors, Counsellors and Therapists know how best to handle that.
Last week, my husband and I saw reports of American teenagers cutting themselves with sharp objects and all sort of destructive habits. Again, there are many reasons for this and people are really going through a hard time in the world today. If anyone understands anything about this world, they’ll realize that things won’t get easier, and life won’t get simpler but we can be happier.
That’s why I’m sharing a few tips for embracing happiness as a young person in these times.
You can *become happier, more attractive and fun-to-be-with*. You just have to learn how. There is no need to change who you are or lie about what you like, to make people accept you. You can change your life by embracing these simple habits:
Decide to enjoy life. Look around. Give extra time to intensify how you enjoy the moment. My friend Leye knows how to do this. When he’s having a delicious meal, he allows that experience to last as long as possible, to the point of annoying everyone, but he doesn’t care. He just doesn’t want beautiful moments to pass away without savoring it. Observe, and notice the beautiful things of life. Instead of sulking about something that didn’t go as planned, take a walk and enjoy the little things: birds, sand, sunrise, clouds… just enjoy! Take it in and let the memories linger. Create enjoyable memories that you can revisit in your mind. Not only should you enjoy the moment, I suggest enjoying the future too. It’s lovely to just sit down and envision what it would be like when your dreams come true. A smile will form on your face, stress will fade away and you can be invigorated to work towards that future – because of course, envisioning is not enough. But it’s surely the beginning.
This one is like medicine. It destroys the entitlement mentally where you think people owe you. It kills the virus of discontent and unhealthy competition. Ah, thankfulness is a prescription that cures many diseases.
The optimism, confidence and radiance of a thankful person is contagious. Thankfulness is being full of thanks aka gratitude. Look for something to be thankful for. Look for someone to be thankful to. And do it often, it will change your life.
What else will thankfulness do?
-Thankfulness has a way of reproducing itself. As you express gratitude, you become more radiant, attractive and likeable so more kindness comes to you, then you have even more things to be thankful for.
-You develop a sense of security, when you realize how many things you have going for you and how many people are willing to help you.
-Your relationships are deeper and you feel more connected with those you love as you thank them. I saw in a research that gratitude can increase happiness levels by around 25%.
How will you practice this? Will you write a thank you email to someone you haven’t really thanked well? Or like me, will you keep a thankfulness journal where you record everything good that happened to you, and who contributed to making it happen daily.
Let me know what you do.
– Your favorite 90s Baby,
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