Spank your Kids
I read something that I found a bit hilarious yet real.
At a tender age, a young child is so fond of the parents, especially the mum. Then as a teenager such child has some resentment especially because the parent(s) has/have shown some high level of discipline which might be perceived as wickedness. Yea they just won’t let you be right? 🙂
As you become more mature, you are glad your parents disciplined you the way they did.
These are phases people can relate with, the times when you felt yours were wicked because they spanked you when all you deserved was to be spanked 😛
I’ve come to terms with God’s Word on the need to spank a child.
3 Reasons to correct your child
- Train your child for the Future: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
- Foolishness is real in a child: Foolishness is firmly attached to a child’s heart. Spanking will remove it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)
- A spoilt child brings shame: Punishment and discipline can make children wise, but children who are never corrected will bring shame to their mother. (Proverbs 29:15)
There’s a saying ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’. I believe this to be true, especially with these three verses of scripture.
But how should parents go about disciplining their children?
>>> I interacted with a couple and heard them say right from their early days in marriage, they decided never to flog or spank their kids in anger, because they felt they’d go way off-the-line, and I found this to be a good decision. You can adopt this too. Moreover I heard someone say, “There’s a way you keep flogging a child and end up instilling fear and not discipline”. You might think you’re really training and correcting your child but you’re actually nagging and provoking your child. The Bible cautions against this…
And now a word to you parents. Don’t keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful. Rather bring them up with the loving discipline the Lord himself approves, with suggestions and godly advice. Ephesians 6:4(TLB)
Okay, now you wonder why your parents never knew that part of Scriptures right ;). Anyways now you know, and someday you’ll have kids too, I bet you know what you should do.
Wait a minute, there’s a biggggg difference between abusing your child verbally and correcting that child. You shouldn’t use bad words on your children, you know those words.
I must tell you this, words are seeds, so mind the words you use on your children, or the names you call them especially when you’re angry. In future they might just naturally respond to the seeds you’ve sown and you’re just worried about their behavior. Hellooooo, you’re responsible for their behavior.
>>> Teach your children to be bold and confident, let them be free to express themselves whenever they are around you. I’ve seen young people who feel more comfortable opening up to others (including family members) rather than their biological parents, some who eventually fall into wrong hands all in the name of seeking someone to confide in.
Parents and soon to be, Beware!!!
Respect your children, don’t hush them. Build a solid relationship with them, rather than practice a ‘Dictator-to-Subject’ style. Some parents’ may feel they’re always right, after all they’ve been there before you. But Parents, no matter how young your children are, you can learn something from them. You don’t know it all. In fact, your kids can remind you of what you thought them in the past, which might just be helpful to you at the time.
There are families where the father comes home and all the children run into hiding. I see such as a problem that
must be resolved fast. If your child is always scared of you, even when the child hasn’t done any wrong, then you need to watch it, check your style of parenting! You need to build that child’s self-esteem and confidence, because it can affect the child to a great deal.
>>> Most importantly, as parents, you’re the first representatives of Christ to your kids. Show them love, show them Christ early in life and help mold a solid mindset in them. If parents’ would play their roles in the lives of their children when they should, I believe it will have a strong effect on the society because the family is the smallest unit of the society.
So remember to correct your kids, in love because;
- They must be trained for their future
- Foolishness is in a child’s heart and only correction will take it away
- A spoilt child will eventually bring you shame
There’ll be times you’ll really need to use firm hands on your kids. Spanking a child is one way to drive away foolishness, so I suggest you let your children know why they should be flogged when they misbehave, show them these reasons from the bible, but don’t over flog them oooo 🙂
Hope you had an enlightening read. Feel free to share and type your comments below.
Image Source: Google Images