Dear 90’s Baby #10

Dear 90’s Baby,

There is no mistake about success and I think your beliefs may have been limiting you. How is your mind set? What’s your mentality?
Mindset seems like an overrated, overused word but in reality, it is underrated and not well understood, right now than ever before. It matters how you think, and what you think.

A photo by Matthew Wiebe. Your mindset is not as much what you think, as it is how you think. “Mindset is a fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations.” – Dictionary

First, your mindset is fixed, meaning it is a constant that keeps showing up in your matter. Every where you go and in everything you do, your mindset leaves a trail. It is like an unseen signature or watermark on your life. When your mindset is faulty, no amount of motivation can cure you, in fact, someone may lay hands (or legs sef) on you but you will not go past your mindset. I’ve been a victim of limiting beliefs. I had good people around me, I wanted to succeed, I still want to, I listened to the right things and practiced most of them, but I just couldn’t overcome my inertia. I was consistently under-performing, and I knew it, but couldn’t figure how to stop the trend. Not until I realized I had a limiting belief and went out of my way to overcome it (we can gist about this some other time) It’s been a process but I’m far from that girl that was limited by her limiting beliefs. And oh, did I mention that you can have more than one limiting belief? Back to my story, the point is, I understand. I understand that you may have lived and grown in situations less than palatable, your parents may have made wrong decisions, you may have even committed blunders that have formed strong pillars of limiting beliefs in your mind. You cannot do anything about yesterday but listen, you can make tomorrow fantastic, if you pay attention.

Pay attention to the beliefs at the back of your mind. Are they limiting you, or are they propelling you? “I cannot go beyond a certain level”, “this offer is not for people like me”, “I am not old enough”, “I don’t deserve to be paid”, “Until I become rich, I can’t..”, “some people are just geniuses. I’m not even close”,”this may have worked for so and so, but it’s just going to complicate my life”… STOP! Those are limiting beliefs. Search deep down, and call them out. Ask yourself questions to expose such belief so you can deal with them. Call yourself by name, and ask “Why do you live this lifestyle you have?”, “Why do you have these kind of results and how do you come about them?”,”Why are you still here?”, “Why haven’t you tried this option?”, “Why did you say no? Why not?” Answer these questions, and listen to yourself. One of the most intentional things you can do in life is to identify your limiting beliefs and deal with them. The first step however is to acknowledge. Something may be wrong with your mindset, but how can you fix a problem if you don’t even know that the problem exists? You can’t!

If you have ever done anything successfully, you’ll realize in retrospect that you may not have projected the exact outcome(s) when you started, but you must have been working towards it; you must have dealt with a limiting belief or two; you must have been in the right atmosphere; you must have been intentional. There was a mindset, a mentality, a trail of thought that powered the actions that led to success. Mindsets are that important.

Now your turn, how can you develop a healthier mindset today?

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Tolu Michaels

Tolu devotes her life to helping people live truly, connect deeply and love freely. She shares the essentials of the Christian faith in everyday language and has been a speaker at many youth gatherings and discussion groups, encouraging young people to take a stand for the Lord in spite of today’s culture. Tolu serves as the Ministry Director of Godlovers Fellowship and has been featured on Kingdom Times and Lifegiva.

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