Dear 90’s Baby #6

Dear 90’s Baby,

Do you agree that life is getting busier, crazier, and more frantic with each passing day? We are more connected, more energetic and literally more current today than ever before.
Thankfully, we have more devices, programs, and apps than ever before to make life easier. You can attend meetings from your room and attend conferences online.. You can text with close friends around the world and let them know they’re in your thoughts.. You can share pictures of your newborn with relatives thousands of miles away.. You can check your account statement while hanging out with your favorite buddies.😎

We love technology and all its perks. We love the ‘interconnectedness’, in fact, it is an important requirement in our day to be social media savvy and I tell you, it is important to know how to use social media well. However, let us pause for a minute. I’ll like to draw some things to your attention:

Woman on social media

You see, social media makes everything all about us. We now measure our lives by who follows us and how many online friends we have. Even though we’ll like to think we are more than the number of clicks on our last post, we still become happy or depressed by that number. This is a problem; a real problem. I tell you what, the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. Remind yourself often: “Social media is not my life. It is just a tool”

Another thing is, the constant unhappiness of many people is traceable to social media. For the first time in history, we can peek inside the lives of others in real time; we can follow other people around through their pictures, video clips and status updates. Problem is when we observe others and their lives seem better, more interesting and more fulfilling than our own lives, we feel like we are missing out on something, or like we are inferior to them. Never before in history have so many people had so much yet felt so dissatisfied. Don’t forget that what you see is not the whole reality. People show you only what they want you to see – often after they have photoshopped, cropped, and filtered. Of course, when you compare your reality with that, it would seem dingy and dull. Abi😩

See ehn, social media may not tell you that life happens in seasons, but it does. There are times when you lack the things you need and there are also times when you have more than enough, but social media does not filter based on that. It just shows you stuff based on who you follow or what you like. As a 90’s baby, there is no amount of revelation that will convince anybody that you have arrived. We are all still learning, growing and on our way. Don’t allow another person’s success to tension you o😯 They’ve had other seasons; they have paid the price. Just face your journey and pay yours. You can chase after everything you have ever wanted and get it all anyway, it still won’t be enough (only Christ is enough). You will always battle with discontentment until you let Christ be all that you need.

In our time, we all like to say ‘God bless my hustle‘. Okay o, God will bless it but don’t let your ‘hustle‘ be motivated by constant searching, comparing, and envying what you do not have. At the end of every day, you will still feel empty. Don’t just ask God to bless you, practice gratitude for all He provides and appreciate what He has made happen for someone else. Envy causes you to resent God’s goodness in other people’s lives and to ignore God’s goodness in your own. To you, the glass is always half-empty because you compare yourself to everyone else. This only prolongs your journey. Use your time to be thankful for what God has given you, Instead of creeping on someone else’s Timeline saying: “Oh, I wish I had their life!” and hoarding your “likes” (because you think that will somehow make them less popular..😅) be sincerely happy for them. In fact, they may be longing for your life in ways you don’t even know about!

We were created for more—way more. We were not created to draw attention to ourselves but to give glory to God.
Social media and technology are great tools; a place to see what’s happening in the lives of those we love, to rejoice with those who rejoice, to find and offer information, motivation, and encouragement. A place to be honest about our struggles, but social media is not your life.

Your favorite 90’s Baby

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Tolu Michaels

Tolu devotes her life to helping people live truly, connect deeply and love freely. She shares the essentials of the Christian faith in everyday language and has been a speaker at many youth gatherings and discussion groups, encouraging young people to take a stand for the Lord in spite of today’s culture. Tolu serves as the Ministry Director of Godlovers Fellowship and has been featured on Kingdom Times and Lifegiva.

Comments ( 2 )
  1. Okey
    June 10, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    This is an awesome post.
    Thanks Tolu

    • ToluKumuyi
      June 14, 2016 at 6:06 am

      thank you okey.

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