Dear 90’s Baby #13

Dear 90s Baby,

Things won’t get easier, but you can get tougher; things won’t get simpler, but you can get more equipped; your needs won’t all disappear, but you can become content; world problems won’t reduce, but you can get happier. There are changes you can make to be happier and I mentioned two of such changes in the first part of this series. Today, I’ve got two more (You’re welcome 🙂 )

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Giving: if truly you walk in love towards people, giving will become a bit natural to you-  because you cannot truly love and not give. Notwithstanding, you can cultivate the “giving” habit. There is always something you can give- in cash and in kind. Everyone always has something to give. When you give to someone, you make them smile, you make them happy. Interestingly, the giver reaps more benefits than the receiver (Acts 20:35). By being kind, you feel less irritated, stressed and isolated. You are happier, you feel more useful, and you connect more with friends and family. Your heart is expanded, you feel optimistic about the world. I once read of a kindness study. It turns out that we are happier when we do things for other people than when we do them for ourselves. Be kind and kindness will come back to you.


Empathize: empathy is a powerful word with different interpretations. It is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person, such that you can imagine and understand their thoughts, behaviours and shortcomings. It is the ability to care about others, even though they are different from you. The good part is, empathy can be learnt. Learning this skill has huge benefits, for you and for the people in your life. When you empathize with people, you are able to look past their annoyingness into the beauty of their personality. Patience grows in you, and there are deeper levels of bonding in your relationship. Empathy not only improves your relationships though, it changes you as well. You become less judgmental, less frustrated, and less disappointed. Likewise, empathy is reciprocal. As you become more willing to tolerate other people’s point of view, they are more likely to listen to yours.


There you go. Embrace these two habits + the other two from my last letter and you’ll see how much radiance you exude and how happy your thoughts become. I don’t know about Peter Pan so I can’t say happy thoughts will make you fly, but happy thoughts will definitely give you a higher quality of life and healthier relationships.


So, your turn, what other habits would you say can make us happier people? Let me hear your thoughts.


Your favorite 90s Baby,


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Tolu Michaels

Tolu devotes her life to helping people live truly, connect deeply and love freely. She shares the essentials of the Christian faith in everyday language and has been a speaker at many youth gatherings and discussion groups, encouraging young people to take a stand for the Lord in spite of today’s culture. Tolu serves as the Ministry Director of Godlovers Fellowship and has been featured on Kingdom Times and Lifegiva.

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